Complaints sent to him, is actually legitimate. But remember that before asking it to change bad habits, avoid using of anger, harsh words or less to confront because it will not succeed.
"Most of the men need a rational explanation why they should change the habit disturbing you", said Shelli Stutz, founder of 'ManFinder', as quoted from WomansDay. Therefore, consider some bad habits and solutions that will improve the habits of the couples.
1. Toilet seat left opened
For some women, see the toilet seat up is a thing that is so disturbing. In addition to not look neat, toliet seat that is open to women often have difficulty using the toilet. "If you already have a problem in the relationship, leaving opened the toilet would be an insult," said Roland Hinds, wedding consultant and author of 'Are You the Right One for Me'.
Solution: First, let him know that you get annoyed if you have to check every pair finished using the toilet. Second, "Make a compromise," Hinds suggestion. Tell the couple to always leave the toilet seat in a lowered position, making it easier for you to wear it.
2. forgetting a date
Before getting married, the couple are often wooing, buying her flowers and take to make a romantic dinner when you're over-year. However, romantic things like that are no longer doing after marriage.
Solution: Start with yourself. Tell your partner about the concert you want to go or interesting place you want to visit with him. Send e-mail or short message about the activities you want to do on your birthday or wedding anniversary. Men want to know exactly what you want.
3. Goods placing Improper
It has often you collect dirty clothes scattered about, the papers have been read and empty coffee cups lying around the house. Now, you can not stand the indifference the couple.
Solution: According to Stutz, "Tell your the couple how it feels to take care of the house every day, and what you want it do to help you. Sounds simple, but useful. Men usually do not do it if you do not ask." Then try to tell him, "I am very upset and angry if you have to tidy up the messy stuff. It would be very helpful if you could put clean clothes in the closet, and dirty clothes in the washing machine." Make sure you feel better after saying it, and do not forget to give appreciation for all his efforts.
4. Smartphone addictive
While a large family get together or just dating, the couple often diverted his mind by his smartphone. Whether to check work email, blackberry message from the boss or just check the timeline on Twitter.
Solution: Try to tell him that you do not like to see the couple is busy with a handphone, but it will be much happier if the couple want to look up to you. When he realized that the habit can make you feel ignored, try to create boundaries and expectations. For example, prohibits check SMS or a phone call during dinner hours.
5.He Do Not Want Listening
According to Stutz, this is the most common complaints. Some women think they have expressed a clear intent to their partners - to be heard or to share the emotions - it is not. So, it is undeniable that the man might have a bad habit of not listening when you speak.
Solution: "Remember when a man loves you, he would be willing to do anything for you," said Stutz. So make sure you communicate very clearly what you need. If it is difficult through words, you can try it in writing as emails or letters.
6. Watching Too Many Matches Sport on TV
Most of the men have been enjoyed sports teams before he met you. But that is a problem, with many things that you should take care, such as home, children, family, friends, makes it so annoying habit.
Solution: Tell him, gently as possible and without emotion that
This penchant for watching sports for hours makes you lonely and upset. Make an agreement that he could only watch his favorite sports team during a match, the rest is a time for family.
7.Did not Care to himself
In fact, a lot of men who do not realize that the shirt and pants that they wear are often not suitable, clean and did not even clean.
Solution: Fortunately, most men like to be assisted in appearance, especially if they know if it looks neat will make you happy. Instead of frowning look dressed tastes, whom he looked better back the contents of cabinets and provide alternative suggestion. Do not forget to give praise for his performance, if he manages to look stunning.
