In relationships with someone else, we will always find a mismatch. Likewise, when you are dating or married to someone. Conflict or an argument could have happened and it's not a bad thing. Therefore, this may help mature the relationship.
The problem now is how you deal with the argument, so that disagreements can be resolved well. Especially when it turns out this argument to make your relationship is now at stake. Consider the following tips to save it:
1. Be willing to beat
Research shows, the willingness of one partner to beat order to make it up can help establish a harmonious and strong relations. The interesting, the two sides do not have to beat to each other so that this can be achieved. So, if you really love your partner, try to give in first.
2. Remember that every person has a right as an individual
Many women often experience problems in relation with the men being too anxious to please your partner and the rule itself. In fact, surveys show that women who dare to express opinions and desires, and knowing that everyone has individual rights, can live a happier life with your partner.
3. Say yes, yes, yes!
How often do you say yes-or other positive words-to the couple? Psychologist John Gottman says, can be predicted whether a relationship will last or end in the middle of the road to see how many positive words were spoken in a conversation, rather than negative words. So, the more often you express things that are positive, your relationship will grow stronger and not easily hit by the storm
4. Avoid the attitude calculation
At the argument started, some people will start counting. A very simple, how many times he give in and the couple complied, and then later asked for returns beyond. While the married couple, who were subject to calculation is usually about work at home. Starting from who more often take care of the child to make the beds.
According to the counselor Paula Hall, there is no point calculations like this. "When a person feels to do more than their partners, they will feel less valued," said Hall. "But this is no reason to make it a topic of debate. Better to explain to your partner what you feel, so he better understands your position."
5. Say thank you
Happiness always comes from being thankful and grateful. Therefore, when your partner does things for you, say thank you. According to behavioral psychologists, Jo Hemmings, couples who are always doing little things for others, and repaid with gratitude, will have a harmonious relationship and durable.
"Many couples begin to forget it over time," says Hemmings. "But if you are rewarded for things you do, you will feel happy and want to do it again. Well, that's the feeling that you should remember. Therefore, do it for your partner," added Hall again.
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